Tears of Happiness and Sadness

Posted on behalf of Vic Singh

A happy event occurred on the 23rd of May 2007, the birth of my baby girl (Daya Kaur) and boy (Joedh Singh). I’m writing on this blog for you my friend Gilly, because stuck in my memory is the look of joy you had on your face when you realised that finally my wife (Raj) and me were going to have children. You were thrilled more than anyone I know and I still get a kick out of thinking about the hugs you gave me and Raj.

I am so glad you found out about this, because you always asked me whether there was “any news” on that front, and I always had to say no. You always said to keep positive. The good part was that you finally came to my house and you saw us in person, that sad part is that left us a few days later. You talked to me how much you would like to have a family too, and I said I would like to have a daughter and you said a son. Well now we have both and I feel truly blessed.

When they were born, I could not contain my joy, and started to text all my friends and family of the good news, and as I went down the list I came to your name. It was a strange moment as I cried tears of happiness and sadness. I wish so much you could have been here, but it was not to be.

Joedh Singh

Daya Kaur

You’ll be so glad to know too my friend that I chose the names from our Indian Heritage (as I know too you were very keen to have names that told a story or reflected cultural heritage). Joedh (meaning brave) Singh (www.sikh-history.com/sikhhist/warriors/jodh_ram.html) comes from the brave and wise warrior Sardar Jodh Singh Ramgarhia. Daya (meaning kindness) Kaur (www.sikh-history.com/sikhhist/gurus/pdayas.html) come from the first Sikh to be baptised Bhai Daya Singh.

Anyway my friend, I will teach them both about their uncle Gilly, and what he stood for. Brave (Joedh) in the face of adversity and injustice and kindness (Daya) to those who needed help. This rare and wonderful combination is what made you so unique and endeared you so much to all of us.

Vic

1 comment:

Debbie said...

Hey Vic
I have too cried tears of happiness and sadness reading your post.
So happy for you and so happy you saw Gilly the weekend before he left us.
The mixture of emotions you are describing has been a recurring event in the last two and a half months. Next to the sadness and the loss there have been so many acts of love, positive news and exciting turns of events, which are truly keeping Gilly’s spirit alive, while he relentlessly keeps giving us so much.
A birth of a new child is always a reminder of life moving forward and of new adventures and discoveries ahead of us.
I know uncle Gilly will watch over your beautiful children and that he is immensely happy for you all.
Lots of love to you, Raj, Daya and Joedh
Debbie Q M